My family loves to tell a story about a game my little sister and I used to play when we were younger. The game was called “Queen and Servant”. This game consisted of the queen (usually always me) laying in our parents big bed with a bell that could be rung to beckon the servant (usually always my sister). The servant was there to serve the queen and to do whatever she demanded, but the servant’s most important job was to plan a lunch menu for the queen to choose from and then serve her the food in bed. Basically, it was the best game ever!
Yeah, I know what you’re thinking…OBVIOUSLY I was a terrible big sister! (Although just for the record, I do still insist that she enjoyed playing this game!).
The point is, I grew up dreaming up being served. I imagined that I would marry someone wealthy and would hire someone to cook and clean for me. I pictured myself as a “southern belle”, sitting on my wrap-around- porch, sippin’ some sweet tea without a care in the world.
Embarrassing to admit? Yes. The truth? Also, yes.
Fast forward to my adult years now. The reality looks just a *tad* bit different.
I am Mama to one super-sweet, oh-so-smart girl (“Sissy”, age 4) and one mischievous, red-headed boy (“Bubba”, age 1).
My husband is an officer in the United States Marine Corps. We have been married for 7 years and moved 7 times. Needless to say, life is a bit chaotic at times. I spend my day’s homeschooling my oldest, folding laundry, preparing meals, cleaning food off the floor, and keeping the baby from playing in the toilet.
Honestly, most days, I feel like the servant. And I know that many of you other mamas out there feel that way too. That life isn’t turning out the way we thought it would. It’s more demanding, more exhausting, and far lonelier than we ever imagined it could be.
And yet, amazingly, in a way that makes absolutely no sense at all, we love it. We wouldn’t trade it for all the front-porch-sittin’ and sweet-tea-sippin’ in the world (although we would still love to hire that maid)!
And why is this? Why wouldn’t we make that trade? Why, every day, do we put others needs before our own?
It’s because we were made for something bigger than ourselves. The Bible says that our ultimate example, Jesus, “did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for others” (Mark 10:45). Before that, in verse 43 it says “Whoever wants to be great must become a servant”.
So what’s the problem? Why are we so miserable? God wants us to serve. And we do – in our homes, at our jobs, in our churches, in our communities, and around the globe. Yet we are worn-out, bone-weary, and often just plain empty.
I think the issue is often our perspective and our attitude. Personally, I have to block out the culture that tells me that “it’s all about me” and instead focus on the truth found in the scriptures above, that it’s more about serving and giving to others. I have to move from the earthly perspective to the eternal perspective. And this is no easy thing!
That’s why I’m creating this space for us. This space for us humble Servant Mama’s to come and be refreshed. To find that we’re not alone. To find encouragement and to focus on the truth that there is a God who loves us, who sees our daily sacrifices, who knows what it is to give so much of yourself to others that sometimes it seems as though there is nothing left.
Understand this Mamas: We can’t do it all on our own. We need Him. We need His strength, His love, His joy. When our wisdom, patience, hope, and kindness run out….we can rely on His. Apart from Him we will always fall short.
But thankfully, He is here and He is with us. And it is my hope that through these posts and pages that you meet God and meet others who inspire you to keep going, to keep serving. God has entrusted these precious little ones into our care and we must embrace this season of our lives. When we pack their lunches, change their diapers, fold their clothes, or soothe them back to sleep, we are serving Him, the One who created us. It is my prayer that we can see these simple everyday opportunities around us as opportunities to serve Jesus, because all that we do is for Him and for His glory.
My tired eyes don’t always see it that way, but I know it’s the truth and it’s what I am daily striving for.
All of you mamas out there are doing a great job! You probably don’t hear it often enough so please, hear this: THANK YOU for all that you do, for pouring into the next generation. I feel better about the future for my own children knowing that they will have friends, spouses, and colleagues who were raised by mamas like you!
And a special thank you to those of you who are serving as a part of a military family, especially if your love is currently deployed. Those months are some of the longest and hardest to walk through. Cast your cares on Him friend and He will sustain you (Psalm 55:22).
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