…or work-ups, or field exercises, or duty, or schools, or training, or any other time THEY decide your husband needs to be away from home for an extended length of time.
Okay, maybe you’re thinking “What could possibly be good about me being home alone and having to take care of the kids all by myself for so long?!?” Well, I get it, I do. It definitely sounds like a major bummer at first. But, as with everything else in this crazy military life we live, “It is what you make it”.
Do you think that new duty station is going to be the worst place ever? Well, it probably will be. Do you think getting put on recruiting duty is going to be an absolutely miserable experience? Yep, it will be. Do you think being apart from your spouse for 8 months is going to be the most difficult thing you’ve ever done? Quite possibly.
If you go into something thinking that it’s going to be terrible, odd are, that’s exactly what it will be.
But, if you go into it looking for the good, hoping for the best, then that’s what you will find. It is what you make it.
Don’t misunderstand, I love my hubby dearly and if I get to choose, I choose for him to be home with me every time. But in this life we live, that’s just not gonna happen. There are times that he is going to be gone for weeks or even months at a time and when those times come, I am going to choose to make the best of it. So I’m revealing 10 things you’ll enjoy about deployment (or you know, whatever it is he’s gone for this time):
1. Less cooking– Yes! Nachos for dinner or maybe a healthy bowl of oatmeal…either way, Mama’s not cooking!
2. Less laundry– You might not notice this one at first, but just wait until he comes back. That PT gear makes a serious difference!
3. Chinese food– Or whatever your favorite is that he doesn’t like so you never get to have. He leaves, I’m ordering Chinese food. Every. Single. Time.
4. Setting the thermostat where you want it– Please tell me we’re not the only couple who battles over this! I’m cold. He’s hot. He’s gone, so I get to put it exactly where I want it and no one touches it!
5. Not having to share the bed– Okay, at first this seems like a negative because you miss him and it feels empty and lonely and every weird noise makes you reach for your pepper spray. But, eventually you get used to it. And even kinda like having all that space to yourself. Then when he comes back, it’s weird all over again as you readjust to giving up all that space (especially if you got pregnant before he left and are now 9 months pregnant and have a giant belly to accommodate, as I did. Ahem.)
6. Getting to leave your reading light on guilt-free– Yep. Enough said.
7. Having complete control of the TV remote– Chick flicks, The Bachelor, The Lifetime channel… now’s your chance to live it up!
8. Travel opportunities– Now this one may not apply to everyone, but for many of us this can be a great opportunity to go home and spend time with family, visit college friends, take a girls only vacation, or possibly (if everything really just works out perfectly for you) meet your spouse in a fun, exotic location for a few days.
9. New friendships and lots of time to spend with them– This was the most unexpected blessing of my husband’s deployment. The friendships that can be made and deepened (especially with other spouses also going through deployment) is an incredible thing! Plus, when hubby’s gone (and you’re not busy doing other things like laundry or cooking dinner), you have more free time to just spend hanging out with friends.
10. The ability to be more spontaneous– This is a benefit that I didn’t even realize I had until it was gone. I was able to call the shots all on my own. I went where I wanted, when I wanted, and did what I wanted without having to consult or compromise with anyone else. I have to admit, it was kind of nice.
So there you have it, 10 things you’ll enjoy about deployment! Yes, deployments are tough. But you are strong, your God is stronger, and together we can do this!
So order that Chinese food, invite some friends over, and put on whatever TV show you want. Make the best of it because remember, it is what you make it. Enjoy it.
He’ll be back messing with your thermostat and hogging the remote again soon, and by then, those things won’t even matter so much anymore because you’ll just be thankful he’s there beside you!.
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