The name of this blog is Servant Mama. And all of us mamas have felt that way before. That we’re so busy serving everyone else: our kids, our husbands, our churches, our communities- that there’s no time left for us. For me. For what I want. What I NEED.
And when I hit that place, when I come to that point, I am no good to anyone. Like the old cliché of needing to put on your own oxygen mask during a plane crash before you try to help others. If I’m not taking care of me and my needs, if I am running around on empty, then I have nothing left to give to anyone else. This is not a place I like to find myself.
Yet so often in the past that’s exactly where I’ve ended up. For some reason I feel guilty for taking any time for myself. I feel like there’s always something else I should be doing instead. There’s always laundry that needs done, floors that need swept, a person I’ve been meaning to send a card to, a toy that needs the batteries replaced (seriously….always this one. Surely it’s not just my house!). Something. There’s just always something that feels like I should be doing it instead.
I desperately want to have the time to read that book that’s been on my list forever, go for a bike ride, paint my nails, or even just go shopping by myself. Ahhhh…they all sound so wonderful don’t they?
Well slowly I am learning that it’s okay to do these things. And not just okay, but necessary.
Jessica N. Turner of TheMomCreative.com has been a huge help and inspiration to me in this area. In her new book The Fringe Hours: Making Time for You she encourages readers to let go of the pressure we so often put on ourselves to do it all and to let go of the guilt we feel when we compare ourselves to others. She helps readers discover what type of activities they might find fulfilling and uncovers the pockets of time in each day where we can make those activities happen.
For me personally, I have found that they early morning hours are the key to me having a successful day. I am not by nature a morning person, but with little ones, there’s not much choice in the matter. They are going to wake up around 7:00, no matter what. I have found that if I get up by 5:00 then I can do my devotion, blog a little, workout, get my hubby’s breakfast and lunch ready, and (if I’m really lucky) get showered all by the time the kids are ready to get up. And I am a much better mama the rest of the day, all because I have already taken care of me!
Getting up this early though isn’t for everyone. I totally get that. Find what works for you. The Fringe Hours has tons of great tips and suggestion. The important thing is that you are taking care of you. That you are making time to do those things that you enjoy doing just for you.
God has only given us so many hours here on this earth. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to spend all of them sweeping floors and folding clothes. Those are important things that need to be done, but there is a balance that must be found. I’m still trying to figure it out and probably always will be as I walk through different seasons of life.
Mother Theresa said “Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin”. Picking up a copy of The Fringe Hours is a pretty good place to begin.
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